My hope is that they had all been called by God in his own perfect timing.
I want to keep this short and say that if you have lost a loved one then you can in some church's attend a seperate group called Beaverement Cafe. This is run by trained people who do this who have DBS checks. Jesus said that Blessed are those who mourn on the Sermon on the Mount in (Matthew 5) for they shall be comforted. Jesus also said blessed are those who are poor in spirit. As fellow Christians we need to be there for others during this difficult process and we should also encourage them think of the future and eternal life to with Christ.
Check on those who you care about who are dealing with grief if you can
in the spirit of Jesus' teachings, when I needed a neighbour and being
there for others to lend a hand. As Christians we should build each
other up and encourage each other as said so clearly in (1 Thessalonians
5:11). "Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do" (Galatians 6:2) speaks to us also about the need to support fellow Christians.
There is also spiritual conselling which is low cost or free where you can talk about your distress. God sees the plight of the afflicted we know from (Psalm 72). You can search to for a spiritual companion. The Holy Spirit can work with you to deal with trauma to help you try and move on. Trauma can lead to problems in the holistic body. The link below is just one place to look for such support.
https://www.chelmsford.anglican.org/vocations-and-discipleship/exploring-vocations/find-a-spiritual-companion/
I will also say that that the prayers of a loved one said in true faith can save those in the household to the next life as the Bible tells us-(Acts 16: 32-24) "And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house."
The below may help to support you also with coping with bereavement -
“Let not your hearts be troubled believe in God believe also in me. In my father's house are many rooms If it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to myself, that where I am, there you may be also.” (John 14 1-3).
This saying was uttered on the night that Jesus was betrayed, the night before he died. And in that poignant scene, Jesus understood what would be in front of him, but he shared their pain of his disciples and shares with all of us the frailty of life. But even as Jesus prepared them for the sorrow of passing, he also instilled in them the hope of our resurrection, the hope of heaven, and the homecoming which they could not yet see.
This passage is very often chosen, and rightly so, reading at funerals because it expresses both empathy and hope. I've brought a sonnet for you this morning by the poet Malcolm Guite and he writes that this is a sonnet a reflection on (John 14 1-3). And when he came to compose this sonnet Malcolm wrote "I was gathering together the thoughts and prayers of the many funerals I've taken and hoping to write something that might be helpful in opening these verses for people who choose to have them read at a funeral. So, it's entitled, "Let not your hearts be troubled. Always there comes this parting of the waves. The best is rested from us, born away. No one is with us always. Nothing stays. Night swallows even the most perfect day. Time makes a tragedy of human love. We plead forever to the one we choose only to find forever in the grave. We have just time enough to love and lose. You know too well this trouble in our hearts. Your heart is troubled for us. Feels it too. You share with us in time that shears and parts to draw us out of time and into you.”
This devotional was found in one of my Bible's-
(1 Thessalonians 4:13-18)
" Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord's own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words."
(Romans 8:38,39) "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord"
(John 14:1-4) "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. 4You know the way to the place where I am going."
(John 3:15,16) "that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life."
This post to from Gospel Imp which is used in church's, may help to cope with loss of a loved one.
https://www.gospelimprint.com/GI-documents/Leaflets/13-11.14-Death&Dying.pdf
